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A day to make “white” people proud

With Donald Trump’s victory, the burden of having to pretend to not be a racist hypocrite has been lifted. How often do we white people have a friendly conversation with a black person only to whisper to a fellow white once the black person is out of earshot..”arrogant nigger or just another stupid nigger” Of course we will still not use that language overtly but with Trump in power we no longer have to feel guilty. We can cheer for the black athletes while they are on the field and then curse them under our breaths if they fail to make the play and of course never invite them to date our daughters or have dinner at our homes. To paraphrase what Chris Rock said, “I can be a smart nigger or a rich nigger…I’m still a nigger.”

Trump’s victory has also confirmed that woman need to know whose boss. Of course he lets them handle some secretarial work but his comments clearly make it obvious that their influence on him has its limits. It is not surprising considering that woman have accepted that role for thousands of years. Many of them are still not ready to free themselves from those shackles. After all, from Biblical times on a woman’s role was to provide an incubator to spawn a man’s son, that a daughter came out once in a while was just an inconvenience. Even god himself only had one son, no mention ever made that he had any daughters. So now that Trump is our leader we can continue to look at woman as sex objects who should be available at any time a man has a need, i.e. Roger Ailes at Fox. Let us not be confused that woman have strong needs for sexual satisfaction as well, but it’s only when they are in the mood and in agreement. That they have brains that are every bit as able as a man’s to achieve successes and failures is still a challenge. Of course they are able to use machinations for their own benefit as well. They are human.

As we will soon discover what most of us know in our hearts, Trump and his band of “merry gropers” will now celebrate their great fortune and achievement to be born with white skin, but the writing is on the wall. This celebration will be short-lived.

Woman are more than Just Incubators !!

That is not to imply that they are not incubators. In fact they are very attractive incubators. Four million years of evolution has made them that way to keep our species viable. But they also have brains, brains every bit as good as a man’s.

Largely because of male centric gods, including the desert god of Abraham, women have been restricted to the role of being an incubator for a man, usually the possession of a single man to produce him children, preferably males, to carry on the family name. In the past and still in the present in some tribes, a woman can be traded to another man for a cow. The man can divorce his woman and take in a younger woman still at the peak of her child-bearing years. This practice has only been made more equitable in recent years. Older woman are often moved to a back room or out of the house and made to fend for themselves.

Recognizing that the sexual attraction that human females have is visual, some religions have attempted to stamp down that allure with laws or demands that the female attire herself in ways that hide her essence from the light of day. The worse of these efforts are made by the radical believers in Islam but radical believers in Judaism, Christianity and Mormonism are not far behind. The burka is outright frightening and some Islamists practice genital mutilation to remove any sexual drive a female might have to keep her under wraps.Some orthodox Jews put a sheet between their bodies with only a small hole cut to allow the male penis to enter the female.

That females are inclined to exhibit their charms is a given and their lure can be overwhelming, but it is also a given that they do not want to be attacked or groped. This was a lesson I learned early on when I began my career as an adult film maker, what is derisively called a pornographer. My models were more often that not refugees from the restraints of religion dogma that had taught them to be ashamed of their bodies. They were more than pleased to work for me using their bodies to tease or indulge in sex, sometimes extreme or painful, but only with their consent. If I attempted to impose myself upon them I was met with a quick and stern rebuff.

But over the last few centuries, woman have begun to free themselves from the role of just being incubators and are now showing themselves to be able leaders, philosophers, writers, musicians, actors and scientists. Many men, still living in a cave like a troglodyte, are having trouble accepting the fact that the old days of religious myth and its irrational constraints are not coming back. Get over it!!

Religion So Big It Must Fail

Religion has kept all people, but mostly women, chained to an albatross that denies them their basic freedom to just be a female. Even men who challenged these ideas that went against this church dogma could be severely punished. The Catholics might burn them at the stake and the Muslims even worse.

Childbirth was the responsibility of women, not just to keep the human species viable, but to keep the legacy of a man’s name in tact. Both Christians and Muslims have denied women opportunities to be educated and some have even used genital mutilation such as the removal of the clitoris to take away a females ability to enjoy sex.They had become little more than an incubator to grow a man’s child, preferably a boy. Just make babies and shut up. A female friend of mine dating a Muslim was told that the Koran says hitting a woman is OK as long as it doesn’t leave a mark the next day.

To be fair, for a long part of human history, when survival was always a challenge at best, it was necessary for a woman to bear as many children as possible. Death could come during childbirth or early in life because of disease. Age ended life as early as the mid 30’s. The mother herself would often die.

But, thanks to science, that is no longer the case and the argument to keep women chained and ignorant is no longer valid. Woman have come to recognize this and are staging a concerted effort to gain their freedom, whether it be an education, birth control by an abortion. And though religious men continue to treat women as though they are their personal possessions, women are having none of it.
In the early 70’s when I made what was pejoratively called pornography, the girls who performed weren’t coerced, but rather running away from the religion they were raised in, often Catholicism or Mormonism. Both my star in Mona and Flesh Gordon were from Mormon families. Jane Fonda subjected herself to the wrath of society when she protested the Vietnam war. Other women like a young Hillary Rodham delivered a strong condemnation of that war when she gave her commencement speech at Yale. Joan Baez did the same through folk music. Miley Cyrus refuses to be ashamed of her body or her love of sex. miley-cy

Women are still fighting for their freedom. In Arab countries the practice female mutilation still exists as shown in the picture above. In catholic countries like Poland draconian abortion laws have forced women to take the streets in protest.

In the current election taking place in the United States, thinly disguised hatred for Hillary Clinton expressed by Donald Trump and his surrogates, Rudy Juliani and Chris Christy is the height of hypocrisy. Each, has been divorced three times, Juliani even claiming that the church has forgiven his transgressions after he said three “hail Marys.”

Hillary has put her maternal instincts to the side and stayed with one man to raise their one child. Not to say that this is for everyone, but it doesn’t deserve to be ridiculed by self-centered ego maniacs. In a world beginning to teeter on the edge of oblivion, it seems more women have recognized the urgency to limit population growth than men, limiting themselves to one or two children or a pet. It’s time for religion to crawl back into the cave it emerged from many moons ago and let science try to explain how the universe works rather than their silly myths from antiquity.

Annie’s got a Gun so back off Pal

Donald Trump was questioned last night about his remark that “what did women expect when they demanded to sign up to serve in the military only to get raped.” It was a typical remark that could be expected from this deranged buffoon who took five deferments to avoid serving himself.

But the question needs to be asked ‘why would women want to join the military’ Beyond the simple answers that it’s a job that provides adventure and good benefits, there is a much more important reason. Women now held important positions in government on all levels, but realized that unless they were willing to make the ultimate sacrifice, that being putting their lives on the line to serve their country, they could never expect equal footing. ‘Stay back little lady, this is man’s work and you’ll just get in the way’ was the implicit unsaid position of most men in this country. Too a large extent it still is. That doesn’t mean that all women have to serve, but those who want to have that right jus”t like the men. And if a draft is reinstated they are going to have to be willing to serve along with the men. It’s the price for equality and they are doing it. Who is so callous, and there are some, to say that Tammy Duckworth, who lost her legs in Vietnam isn’t fully afforded any and all rights given to a man. She is a poignant symbol for women that they deserve every bit the same respect as men do in this country, including being President.

Now let’s take a look at Trumps remarks about rape. His point was that men get horny and sometimes can’t control themselves when they see a women. That may be true but you would hope that America’s finest could satisfy themselves short of rape. Masturbation isn’t a sin and it’s not shameful. But sex is looked down upon in this country and most “good” people think repression is the solution. It is not the answer. Thousands of cases of rape clearly state this. Throughout history, including our own, Armies were followed by a small army of prostitutes willing to service the boys when they were in need. In fact the term ‘Hooker’ describes the ladies who followed General Hookers army during the civil war. But the good church people saw these sex workers as sinners, sluts if you may. Sex was only to make babies and even then it was disgusting, only to be done in the standard ‘missionary’ position and in the dark. Lord Jesus was born without the necessity of filthy sex, i.e. the virgin Mary.

I can’t see any sensible solutions to the problem of rape in the military anytime soon, American’s like Trump will continue to say that female troops should just expect it. What an asshole!

Where was Mom?

Looking for an answer to why Hillary Clinton and females in general are so maligned in most of the world’s cultures seems to always lead me to religion. Yet men always look to mom when they get into trouble. So what’s going on here?

The religions I am most familiar with worship what writer/philosopher Richard Rodriguez calls the desert god; the god of Christians, Muslims and Jews.
The advocates of this desert god go beyond the fact that he created heaven and earth, light and dark, but also had surrogates like Jesus and Mohammed who existed in bodies that were beyond human. Jesus walked on water, a common mirage in the desert, and Mohammed rode his white steed up into the clouds, a claim made after his horse stumbled while trying to leap across a tall bush or wide gully.

Today both of those miracles would have been captured on an i phone which would have proven them false. Even the long lives of biblical characters like Noah, 920 years, fall apart when one realizes that time was measured in “moons” before it was understood that the earth took a year to revolve around the sun. !2 moons a year translate to Noah living to be 77 years old. This desert god seemed to have little respect for women. In the case of the Christians he sent his only son to be sacrificed without even having the decency to ask his wife if it was OK with her, in fact, he doesn’t even acknowledge having a wife. And only one son? Was he impotent or using birth control? And why was he so proud of having a son. Didn’t daughters mean anything to him. As far as women on earth were concerned this desert god said they were the property of men and could be sold and traded for a cow if need be.

The desert god was an ego maniac and a male: the Donald Trump of his day. When people pray they pray to “Our father who art in heaven.” Hallow is his name and must not be used in vain. Why not? Even though people like Pat Robertson tell us that the floods in New Orleans were because of a gay parade which god didn’t like he had no explanation what the people of Baton Rouge did to deserve his anger. Fact be, the desert god doesn’t show up when you need him.

Then he conveniently blames Eve for being weak and eating an apple off of some damn tree. Donald Trump falls back on this to call Hillary Clinton too weak to be a leader. Surprisingly, some of his most ardent supporters are women, mostly older, who grew up being told that they were only to make babies and serve their man. Many had an irrational fear of black men. It was common for me to hear porn models in 1970 tell me they don’t fuck “niggers or dogs.” The hatred for Hillary as espoused on Facebook is alarming. She’s no saint but no leader anywhere has been. George Bush lied and so did Kennedy and Nixon. Being a woman is held against her and women frighten men. Making porn movies taught me a lot about the sexes. Women were much more comfortable about their bodies and sex than men were. Hugging each other was not a problem. Men on the other hand boasted a lot but often struggled to get an erection. There is more than I can talk about in this brief post and for those who want to learn more they can read my memoir, TAKE YOUR SHAME AND SHOVE IT, available on Amazon.com. It is about my own struggle to climb from beneath the blanket of guilt and doubt that religion had placed me under.

Women around the world, thanks in large part to the internet, are now seeing that their sisters around the world are rebelling and question why they are second class humans. Young Muslim women are burning the hijab and removing the head scarf and insisting on the right to drive a car. I, like all men, have had many issues with girls and many have had issues with me, but I totally support their effort to free themselves from that ego maniac who is in heaven. Our world cannot hope to overcome its problems until this is done.

The ladies have had enough

go toplessLast Sunday, a large group of women protested at Venice Beach in Los Angeles against laws forbidding them to go topless on the beach. Being a Puritan country at heart, it shouldn’t be a surprise that in the early 30’s men were not allowed to go topless as well. It was only after Johnny Weissmuller in the role of Tarzan flaunted the censorial Hays commission and bared his chest that men began going topless on the beach. A few years later Clark Gable did the same. The ladies loved it but their mammary glands continued to be considered indecent and had to be hidden even when they are being used to nurse her baby.In the 50’s even burlesque queens had to cover their nipples with pasties.

What is hidden and mysterious causes wonder and American men in particular are fascinated by women’s breasts. Maybe its a latent memory back to infancy when they were weaned on breast milk, but millions of American men go bonkers when they see a woman’s breasts. Russ Meyer made a whole career around movies of big breasted women. I have had friends who would jump out of their seats if a woman with large breasts walked by the window while we sat at Starbucks having a coffee.

Truth be told, they are soft and pleasing to the touch on a young woman, but after they begin to sag from age they are not that appealing. Thanks to the bra, women can continue to use them as an attractive force to lure males who still have fantasies about what they can’t see, but going to the beach and being required to wear a bra that remains wet and uncomfortable after coming out of the water just seems stupid.

Women have begun to rebel against these stupid laws that are hangovers from the days of the Puritans. When European explores began to conquer the new worlds, one of the first things they did was make native women cover their breasts. This last Sunday at Los Angeles’s famous Venice Beach, a large group of women staged a topless protest. Police surrounded them in case a few barbarians in the crowd of on-lookers tried to touch the girls, but most people walked by giving the demonstration little more than a perfunctory glance.

It was no surprise, that the loudest and most obscene display against the girls came from religious fanatics still hanging on to the myth that Adam and Eve were cast out of the Garden of Eden because Eve ate a forbidden apple. From that time on breasts had to be covered. Are we insane or what? God and tits

Politically correct censorship comes to an end at University of Chicago

What a joy to read in the New York Times that the University of Chicago was banning political correctness. This has been a long time coming and as stated in the article the so-called left is more at fault than the so-called right. Let me give you some examples.

When I first arrived at MIT in 1958 the buzz around campus was that an issue of its humor magazine, Voodoo, had been pulled from the racks by the school’s administration. I had learned during the first week of school that MIT men,like all young men, were horn dogs. The staff of Voodoo (VD) ran a promotional humor piece called give VD to your girl friend. A copy was stashed away in the libraries rare book collection and as a student library assistant, I had a key to the room. There was no honor in censorship so I removed it and brought it back into the light to the small library of my fraternity house, Theta Xi, where it hopefully remains today. Censorship was anathema to me.

But when I left school to join the free love and speech movement in Berkeley in 1962 I was again treated to a surprise. I had become part owner of a folk music club called the Cabal but my appearance was just that of another no name beatnik hanging around the scene. I was standing in front of the campus by Sater Gate when a “true believer” young radical was complaining to a friend that the Cabal didn’t hire union help. Rolf Cahn, a refugee from Nazi Germany and well-known jewish folk musician who had been married to Barbara Dane was the force behind the club and a former member of the Woody Guthrie wing of the folk movement, said by many to be communist. The young radical was loudly protesting to his friend that if “Rolf Cahn was a real liberal he would be paying union wages” Rolf liked to say that “do gooders” cause all the problems in the world. The loud radical had no idea that I was the cheap laborer that kept the club operating, taking twenty-five dollars a week in salary and sleeping on a dirty mattress in the back room. That the Cabal hired musicians like Mance Lipscomb and Mississippi John Hurt,both former share croppers, paying them the entire gate for their services was conveniently, because of ignorance, glossed over by the leftist agitator.

Moving on, ten years later I was living in Los Angeles where I had become one of the pioneers of the sexual freedom movement when I began making “beaver” movies, 400 foot silent 16mm movies of a cute girl disrobing and gyrating provocatively on a bed. My movies became instantly popular, American men were fed up with censorship and the women who performed were as well. My “loops” as they were called were soon playing across the country. Beavers morphed into porn and the censorship police were soon on my tail, trumping up charges and lying in court to take me off the streets. DA’s and judges joined in the charade. It’s a long story but let me finish by saying the “left” leaning LA Times was no friend. My partner and I were becoming financially very successful and I agreed when asked to do an interview with a writer from the Times who promised to be fair. Her salient comment in the article when it came out was not about sexual freedom but that my camera cost ten thousand dollars.

Several years later the LA Times became so “politically correct” that they published a list of words that would no longer be used like “undocumented” to replace “illegal”. But was most galling to me was when in 1993 I tried to place an ad in the paper promoting my sequel to “Flesh Gordon” an “R” rated film called “Flesh Gordon Meets the Cosmic Cheerleaders,” the Times would not accept any visuals and only the word “gordon” in 8 point type in the theater listing section. The word “flesh” was a no-no.

So it is a relief that some are beginning to see that stifling free speech is un American, whether it be about sex or voices on the campus protesting Israels brutal treatment of the Palestinian refugees. They are called refugees because they were forcibly removed from their homes during the 1949 war and had nowhere to go. It is only recently that American’s are having the courage to talk freely about that situation in the press and on campuses. That is what caused the University of Chicago to say enough is enough.

Lastly I would be remiss in not pointing out that no literary agent would handle my memoir, Take Your Shame And Shove It, or my local paper “The Malibu Times”, because they assumed it was all about sex. In fact it is about over coming intolerance whether it be racial, political, religious or sexual. I still abhor censorship and hypocrisy and intend to carry on the fight to my end.

The Day America Almost Fell To Its Knees

It wasn’t a dark and dreary day, in fact it was quite the opposite. Thousands had gathered at Reliant Stadium in Houston Texas to watch Tom Brady and the New England Patriots take on the upstart Carolina Panthers. Upwards to a billion watched the battle on their TV’s at home. Billions of gallons of bubble was guzzled by pot-bellied fans who barely knew a game was taking place. At half time the score was 14 to 10 in favor of the Patriots. At the stadium the half-time show was about to begin. For the fans at home, especially for the women this was the highlight of the day: Janet Jackson was about to do a duet with Justin Timberlake. Everything was going swimmingly when the unthinkable happened. Justin reached over and pulled off the flimsy scarf that was covering Janet’s breasts. Suddenly a big brown tit with nipple barely covered by a fancy pasty was exposed to the world.

At the stadium, the stage was too far away for the fans to be sure if what they saw was real or not, but in the millions of homes who were glued to the TV set, panic set in. Mother’s rushed to cover their children’s eyes else their moral character be destroyed beyond repair. Over the following weeks the horrific event was discussed on the news media and at the dinner table. Could this be the end of America as a moral leader. Timberlake and Jackson tried to weasel out of the sinful display, saying it was a wardrobe malfunction, neither performer approved of what happened. But over the months that followed the execs who were in charge of putting on the show, promised the country that something that disgusting would never happen again and it never did. The Superbowl was about families and tits are not about family. America went on its happy way guzzling beer and killing thousands of infidels in the middle east while sacrificing thousands of its own to achieve this noble goal and inexplicably paying millions of dollars to buy magazines that show tits but the thought of that ugly brown tit faded into the past and all was right again.

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The lies about sexual exploitation

Have you ever heard of the Happy Hooker, the best selling 1971 memoir by Xaveria Hollander. According to most voices in America, especially those from the religious right, a hooker can’t be happy, she is being sexually exploited. She would be much happier if she were married and baking cookies and having babies, something Hillary Clinton received much disdain for saying she wouldn’t do that when she first became First Lady. They say a woman’s role, if she wants to work, is sit at a desk in a receptionist’s office or to work for Roger Ailes and accept that part of the job is to quietly agree to his sexual advances. Other women work for free as cheerleaders for NFL teams but are denied jobs as coaches or referees although recently that has begun to change.

Women’s sexuality has been endowed to them by nature and it’s their right to exploit that valuable attribute if they choose. Unfortunately, in far too many cases, men, i.e. pimps, move in to take control and hoard most of the money. Not so in Holland which until recently had a flourishing red light district where a woman could sell her favors without a pimp lurking in the shadows. We don’t tell a male blessed with tremendous ability to catch or throw a ball or play a guitar that he would be better off working as an accountant, lawyer or ditch digger. If he is blessed with talent we offer him significant amounts of money to show off his blessing.

The idea that women who sell sex are being exploited is a myth. I have known countless women, including my wife, who enjoyed working as strippers or my girl friend who worked as a call girl while getting her law degree. I describe in my memoir #TakeYourShameAndShoveIt, many of the details of these encounters There are 14,000 women now working as cam girls. They choose their own hours and choices of what they want to do in their rooms. Most are exceptionally beautiful and many reveal in their chats how much they enjoy their work. Here is a connection to a Youtube video by an Amsterdam red light prostitute that will enlighten you.

Oddly enough, the most radical of religious zealots, describe how their suicide assassins will be rewarded with 80 female slaves to use as they wish in the after life. Meanwhile on earth these same zealots treat women with disdain and hatred, murdering them if they stray from the religious dogma. Go figure.

The Internet has made us sexually free

Thanks to the internet a forum has been provided where an anonymous contributor does not have to hold back about how he feels. This is true when it comes to politics but more so when it comes to race and gender, especially gender.

Because of bigger muscles, men the world over have always thought of themselves as superior to women. I know I did. Girls were sissies and even though muscle mass had nothing to do with brains, girls were intellectually not up to par when it came to subjects that mattered. Girls hearing this over and over accepted it as true. The myths told in the Bible confirmed it as true. But the internet has exposed that as a fallacy and the results is a battle of the sexes never known before.

Men in general have felt that they are the better stewards of a family’s security. Father knows best is the old saying. But there are untold millions of examples of how absurd this philosophy is. Both men and women can plunge a family into ruin with their excesses, be it alcohol, gambling or expensive jewelry. Powerful men have alway felt they had the right to keep women as sex slaves. King Solomon had over 300 wives, Hugh Hefner had his bunnies, Roger Ailes had his newsroom’s female employees. Women being kept in ignorance was key to maintaining this caste system. The internet along with TV has changed that. It has given women equal voice at the table. They are no longer expected to retire meekly to the back room while the men discuss serious subjects while sucking on symbolic penises, i.e. the cigar. The current battle over a woman becoming President is just an extension of this old saw. But the saw is false. Leave out the silly name calling. A woman is just as capable of being the alpha dog as a man and just as capable of fucking up as well. It’s not a gender issue.

Making things even more difficult is that neither sex truly understands the power of the hormones that drive the psyche of the opposite sex. Women don’t want to be harassed yet they adore attention but only when they want it. Men like to play around. A hard on is difficult if not impossible to ignore. It’s no big deal as long as  children are not abandoned. Hillary was derided when she offered a solution; “It takes a village to raise a child.”  Passing on the family name is meaningless.

Laws try to keep things civil but as is often the case go over the top and just make things worse. Maybe this explains the hatred that is spewed out on Facebook about Hillary…cunt, bitch, devil. Four hundred years ago Cervantes pointed out in Don Quixote that all the males in the village were in love with its most beautiful female but when she had to reject the majority of them love turned to hate.

The modern world is allowing women to survive without the support of a man. This has upset many men and women as well. Some are content to remain subservient.  What is unreasonable is that many women who have made that choice lash out as virulently as the men against the women who want control of their own destinies. This seems to be true of older women whose sexual powers are diminishing.Being abandoned in old age is not a pleasant thought. There is no perfect answer but women deserve and are getting a voice at the table. No more name calling! As Silverstone said: You’re being ridiculous”